February 2013
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Befriending Loneliness
zenfarmer:
If you find yourself feeling lonely, it is the perfect time to find yourself. Loneliness is the basic suffering of life. It is the fundamental discomfort of being alone with yourself. It is confronting your core discontent. Friends and lovers can’t rescue you from loneliness. They can only distract you. Loneliness will continue to seek you out until you make friends with it.
To make...
December 2012
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Episode 3: Weirdos from the Internet
Plausibly Deniable: Geek Social Fallacies
Captain Awkward: The C-Word
Doctor Nerdlove: Don’t be a Creeper
Whatever: An Incomplete Guide to not Creeping
Pervocracy: How to not be Creepy I especially appreciate this one because A. It comes from a woman’s perspective, because ladies can be creepy too, and B. It talks specifically about coming on too strong sexually and how that can...
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November 2012
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September 2012
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Episode 2.4: BURN IT. (or, more politely, Things...
Tuesday night I filmed the last segment of this “Shower and Don’t Dress Like an Idiot” epic, which I thought would have a “harsh truths” tone but still come off with the good intentions that lie beneath it.
Then I watched it and the whole thing came off as mean-spirited, which obviously is not what I’m trying for at all. Hell, the whole mission statement of...
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August 2012
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Episode 2.3: Don't Dress Like an Idiot!
A few “Nerd Stealth” items for your perusal:
MG:S “Foxhound” shirt
Mass Effect N7 jacket
Threadless has a lot of wink-and-nudge nerd shirts, which are often “stealth” for copyright reasons if we’re being honest. Check out their “comics” category and beyond for some good nerd stealth. I have one of their shirts based on the Neil Gaiman poem...
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EDITING OMG!
Editing “Don’t dress like an idiot!” tonight, hopefully it will be up tomorrow morning. Apologies for the long time between even these mini episodes, life has been…life.
Oh, and as usual, I beg you to ASK ME STUFF. ASK YOUR FRIENDS TO ASK ME STUFF. Lay your troubles at my feet so I may hem and haw and hopefully help.
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July 2012
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Episode 2.2: Clean!
Ask A Clean Person. You’re welcome. Jolie covers anything and everything, including what to do when your boyfriend pukes in your handbag.
Speaking of asking, Ask me Stuff!
June 2012
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The Hairpin: Dating Myself →
This article is more autobio than advice, but I can not emphasize enough how important it is to be your own ideal boyfriend/girlfriend/partner. Take yourself out to a nice dinner or a show or drinks at a classy cocktail bar from time to time. Buy yourself little gifts just because it makes you smile. When you know you’ve had a bad day, draw yourself a bubble bath with candles and make...
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Episode 2.1: SHOWER!
Okay, that point where I say I “don’t feel like getting into” a gender binary discussion? That is a lie. I love love love talking about gender and gender roles and feminism sometimes. What I really meant was that Laci Green already did it way better than I could. Warning: Laci’s videos are fun and informative and all about s-e-x. They are not safe for work. They are,...
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May 2012
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Five Geek Social Fallacies →
Though this isn’t about dating in particular, I do believe that improving your social skills is a huge part of getting out there and meeting people whom you might date one day. I recently had to push through GSF1 to make our D&D group more peaceful, and boy do I know how awkward/painful that can be. This is definitely worth a read.
Sorry for lack of content, I’ve been working...
April 2012
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March 2012
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Episode One: Beginnings, Small Towns
For much sounder advice than my own re: confidence:
Made of Fail Episode 34: Self-esteem is for Everybody!
For an in-depth look at building an online dating profile:
Made of Fail Episode 46: Love is on the Air Tonight.
The Awl: Survey Says! The Complete Online Dating Advice Guide for Men
(favorite quote: “shower and don’t dress like an idiot.”)
And one for The Ladies.
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Helpful advice from another source.
While we wait, let’s talk about something I think might affect more of us than we realise.
Let’s say you’ve been hitting it off pretty well(by your estimation) with another player at a multi-day gaming tourney. At the end of the last day you find a private moment to ask them out, and to your surprise, they mumble a half-hearted refusal and flee! What could have gone wrong? My...
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Episode One is Filmed!
Episode one has been (nervously) filmed! I have placed it in the hands of my capable BFF, as I am much too self-conscious to edit it myself and hooboy does it need editing. Still, very excited, and I hope you guys like it!
On a side note, happy International Women’s Day! Let’s celebrate by writing old white dudes(that’d be your senators) to let them know that we appreciate and...
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Episode One Preview? Synopsis? Thesis Statement?
COMING SOON. A very first episode in which I will discuss, well, the beginning. Where to start? What gets in the way? What to do about that? Also, what if you’re in a smaller town where nerdery is underrepresented? I will also probably say “umm” too much and forget to look at the camera.
Here Goes.
Let’s try this. I know, lord do I know, dating is hard. Especially for nerd folk. But I’m your friend, and I love you and want you to be happy. So let’s talk this out.
Which is to say, I’ll be launching a video series(webseries? podcast? thing?) discussing dating, romance, and possibly doing it (if I can get past the giggles) from a Nerd Culture perspective. I’d love to have a couple of questions...
