If you find yourself feeling lonely, it is the perfect time to find yourself. Loneliness is the basic suffering of life. It is the fundamental discomfort of being alone with yourself. It is confronting your core discontent. Friends and lovers can’t rescue you from loneliness. They can only distract you. Loneliness will continue to seek you out until you make friends with it.

To make friends with loneliness, you have to welcome the feeling. Although it is an uncomfortable feeling, it is there to show you something wonderful about yourself. When you notice loneliness, you can neither give in to it, nor run away from it. You have to confront it. If you give in to it, you will feel miserable and imagine a long sad life ahead of you. You will imagine that you have personal deficits that make loneliness inevitable for you.

If you run away from it, you will do all kinds of frivolous things to keep yourself busy and distracted. You can develop all kinds of habits to keep loneliness at bay, but the feeling will wait for you. It will be there for you until you face it and find out that wonderful thing about yourself.

To find that wonderful thing, you have to ask your loneliness what is so wonderful about you. Then make a list. If the loneliness remains, add to your list. Keep adding to your list until you find that specific wonderful thing that the loneliness is trying to tell you about. Don’t doubt for a second that you will find it, but be patient. Every time you feel lonely, look again. Soon you will find yourself and you will have your loneliness to thank. Your loneliness will be gone, but you will have parted as friends.

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Episode 3! Weirdos from the Internet! Where we discuss what being “weird” means and how to approach a crush on someone you know online.


Plausibly Deniable: Geek Social Fallacies

Captain Awkward: The C-Word

Doctor Nerdlove: Don’t be a Creeper

Whatever: An Incomplete Guide to not Creeping

Pervocracy: How to not be Creepy I especially appreciate this one because A. It comes from a woman’s perspective, because ladies can be creepy too, and B. It talks specifically about coming on too strong sexually and how that can make EVERYONE around you uncomfortable.

Made of Fail Episode 23: FACE PUNCH!! Which is mostly Twilight Snark but does include a good conversation on how to interact with people you admire without them filing a restraining order.

Did I forget anything? I probably forgot something.


editing! Why is my face like this! YOU’LL JUST HAVE TO WAIT AND SEE.

WHAT? A Question? Oh it is ON, y’all.

Also I’m not dead, yay! I just went on vacation and then got post-vacation busy/poor/sad. Whatevs, I’m pushing through it and feel like MAKING THINGS. LIKE THIS SHOW. There’s also some discussion to be had about being WEIRD. Ohhh yeah.

WHAT? A Question? Oh it is ON, y’all.

Also I’m not dead, yay! I just went on vacation and then got post-vacation busy/poor/sad. Whatevs, I’m pushing through it and feel like MAKING THINGS. LIKE THIS SHOW. There’s also some discussion to be had about being WEIRD. Ohhh yeah.


Tuesday night I filmed the last segment of this “Shower and Don’t Dress Like an Idiot” epic, which I thought would have a “harsh truths” tone but still come off with the good intentions that lie beneath it.

Then I watched it and the whole thing came off as mean-spirited, which obviously is not what I’m trying for at all. Hell, the whole mission statement of this blog-series-thing was “I’m your friend, and I love you and want you to be happy. So let’s talk this out.” Being bitchy about people’s fashion choices is NOWHERE in that statement.

So, instead, I’m going to try to do a text post where I talk about why certain clothes and accessories popular in nerd culture are generally unflattering while employing minimal snark. Well, as minimal as I can get. I am composed of 90% snark, the rest is coffee and bits of string.

This also gives me a chance to use visual aides! Which is beyond my video-edit-fu thusfar. Enjoy!

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Jotted my show notes at a red light. Shooting tonight. Bout damn time.

Photo Set

John Green again. Now with a sock puppet. And oh I see I mistagged him as Hank last time. WHOOPS.

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"Don’t Dress Like an Idiot!" has arrived at long last! With a guest appearance by Sofia, who wants you all to lose the Cat Game.

I’ve got a few stealth nerd recommendations in the show notes for this ep, check it out!

Sorry about the audio being so out of sync, I have no idea how to fix this. It’s not an issue in the original file, but when I drop it into youtube it just goes all to crap. Feel free to open it in another tab and just listen to the audio.


A few “Nerd Stealth” items for your perusal:

MG:S “Foxhound” shirt

Mass Effect N7 jacket

Threadless has a lot of wink-and-nudge nerd shirts, which are often “stealth” for copyright reasons if we’re being honest. Check out their “comics” category and beyond for some good nerd stealth. I have one of their shirts based on the Neil Gaiman poem “The Day The Saucers Came” and it is my favorite.

And possibly the stealthiest of Nerd Stealth accessories? PERFUME. Black Phoenix Alcehmy Lab is a California-based company that makes a wide range of perfume, with scents based on literary characters, comics, and a whole line dedicated to RPG classes, races, and alignments.

Just so we’re on the same page, no one is paying me to hawk this stuff. It’s just things I dig that I think fall under the heading of “Nerd Stealth.”